This blog entry is to the friends and family of survivors. I want you to know it’s never too late to support a survivor. There are so many reasons we may not have connected at the time. It took an incident such as this to for me to begin to identify the important people in my life. A new boyfriend I had started seeing broke up with me within the month after my gang rape saying, “it’s just too intense.” I lost a lot of my social network in the area I was living and lost people I thought were trusted colleagues on my job based on the circumstances and the differing reactions we had to the situation. I can’t say that I would have understood. Who can even surmise what a situation like this does to people and the things it calls up. There’s nothing one can really do to make things ok again. They just aren’t ok. They won’t ever be really. Everything is changed and it’s all different. I am different. But I want you to know who I am becoming. I want to share with you my journey. I wanted to tell you . . .
It’s never too late . . . to be there.